Monday, November 16, 2015

                         Six Ways to Make People Like you. If you want people to like you....
Rule #1:Become genuinely interested in other people.
"Do this and you will be welcome anywhere."
"You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you."
"Ask questions to other people, questions that they would enjoy answering."
                               “The only good teachers for you are those friends who love you, who think you are interesting, or very important, or wonderfully funny; whose attitude is:
"Tell me more. Tell me all you can. I want to understand more about everything you feel and know and all the changes inside and out of you. Let more come out."

And if you have no such friend,--and you want to write,--well, then you must imagine one. ” 
― Brenda Ueland
Reflection: Continue asking and asking, don't get too tired to quickly. If you really want to get to know someone, ask them things. Let them know you are interested in what they have to say, in how their days been, why you are the way you are, etc. Just continue asking, people dig people that actually listen to them and wonder things about them.
 Rule #2:Smile
"Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, "I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you."
"You don't feel like smiling? Then force yourself to smile."
"It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign (witness or indication) of friends."
It's always good to smile, it picks up the mood and just makes you look physically better. No matter what it is that you are going through just make sure to smile. It also makes you seem friendly and people are able to approach you without feeling much weird about it.
                                                     
Rule #3: Remember Names
1) "A man's name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language."
2) "If you don't remember names, you are headed for trouble."
I always have trouble remembering three things:faces, names, and I can't remember what the third thing is.  -Fred
It's always important to remember people's names, although I tend to forget people's names. I have a bad memory and from time to time does make me forget people's names. It isn't a good thing to do so because then people believe that they weren't as important to you for you to at least be able to remember their name. When people talk to me and don't know my name it, I don't necessarily care but other people feel wack that you don't know it. You might simply not care because you don't think meeting that person will matter in the long run but you never know. 
Remembering people's names needs a slightly different approach from all the others explained so far in this section. one must remember to have chosen the right hearing technique. Be committed to know a persons name.
Rule #4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves
"If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener."
"Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself and his wants and his problems than he is in you and your problems. 
"Listening is an art that requires attention over talent, spirit over ego, others over self."
when talking to another person its always important to listen to what they are saying. They're are speaking whats on their mind hoping that you are listening rather than just standing there waiting to reply to what they said. for example, I can be standing there while a person is talking and not hear anything they said. I could have chosen to ignore them without them noticing until the very end. If the person is telling you a certain thing it's because they want to let you know whats going on their mind. It's disrespectful if you don't listen.  
5 tips for active listening:
1) Stay focused, keep touch, and maintain eye contact2) really listen, don't think about your experience or what you have to say next3) allow for periods of silence, wait till the other person speaks again4) repeat the other persons words or paraphrase it back to them 5) understand the emotions behind the words 
Rule #5: Talk in terms of the other man's interest.
"The royal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most."
Have an interesting conversation. don't just tend to be very boring. If you make the conversation interesting the person would want to remain talking to you rather than stop talking to you or simply ignoring you. If you begin the conversation about things that he treasures, they would just want to continue talking to you because you seem interested in them. you are giving them the attention they seek although they may not admit it. 
Rule #6: Make the other person feel important-- and do it sincerely.
"The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature." (John Dewey)" Helping people feel important and appreciated works magic."
When talking to somebody its nice to make them feel important. The person you are talking to knows that you are giving them the attention they desire on a daily basis without really noticing. They enjoy the fact that somebody is actually giving them attention, that somebody actually wants to listen to what they are saying. 
 "Pretend that every single person you meet has a sign around his or her neck that says. 'Make me feel important.' Not only will you succeed in sales, you will succeed in life."
-Mary Kay Ash
Show that you have interest in a person even when you don't. It will always have positive results benefiting you most of the time. 
Reflection: "Six Way to Make People Like You."
Its up to the person if they want people to like them or not. We don't necessarily have to make people like us but if we do want people to like us then the six ways to make people like you are perfect for such situation. It teaches us how to listen, talk, and behave around people in order for people to like us. 

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